By: Beth Durling MS, CADCII, ICADC
Confusion is our responsibility.
It’s that dizzying vertigo, that unsettling sensation where nothing feels quite solid. The energy shifts, becomes unpleasant, and suddenly, you’re not sure what’s happening or how to respond. And in that moment—when the ground feels like it’s slipping out from under you—most of us react. We lash out. We defend. We make decisions from a place of uncertainty, trying to grab onto anything that feels stable.
But here’s the truth: clarity isn’t found in reaction. Clarity is found in pause.
If you could detach, just for a moment, from people, places, circumstances—if you could slow the pace all the way down and stop trying to force solutions—you’d recognize something vital: you may not have clarity yet.
What Is Clarity?
Clarity is your boundary.
Clarity defines who you are and who you’re not.
Clarity determines what you will allow and what you won’t.
It’s easy to assume that the people around us are experiencing life the same way we are. That they see what we see, feel what we feel, interpret situations with the same lens. But the truth? Every single person is living inside their own movie.
Don Miguel Ruiz speaks to this—each of us is the main character in our own cinema. We are each unfolding our own story, shaped by our own experiences, our own domestication, our own spiritual path. Two people in the same room are not having the same experience. They are not even in the same story.
So what does that mean?
