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At The Family Recovery Foundation we believe that it is critical to set boundaries in all of our relationships and that it is not just something that will benefit those in the world of codependency and addiction recovery.

The Family Recovery Foundation

September 1, 20222 min read

At The Family Recovery Foundation we believe that it is critical to set boundaries in all of our relationships and that it is not just something that will benefit those in the world of codependency and addiction recovery.

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However, setting healthy boundaries in recovery is specifically important to keep those in a more vulnerable position safe from being manipulated or taken advantage of and from becoming a doormat in a relationship.

When you establish your boundaries you are letting those around you know what is, and what is not acceptable to you. Without these well-defined limits, the lines between your needs and desires become blurred. The subject of "boundaries" in recovery is referring to not only physical limits that we place in a relationship but also mental and emotional limits as well.

Setting boundaries in every aspect of your life has many benefits and promotes overall mental health and well-being. Here is our list of some of the other benefits of healthy boundaries:

  • Establishing healthy boundaries is good for you and the people in your life, helping you to form and maintain healthy relationships.  Being clear about what your boundaries are is one of the most useful tools to help your recovery flourish.
  • Once you start establishing better boundaries in your relationships you begin to recognize the value of clear limitations and communication at work as well. Boundaries in your work relationships are just as important as your personal ones. There is a significant correlation between lack of professional limit setting and anxiety, depression, and mental health challenges.
  • Learning how to say "no" is a huge part of boundary setting. You get to learn that "no" is not a negative thing in many circumstances. Saying "no" is particularly difficult for people in recovery who feel the need to be accepted. But part of recognizing your self-worth and valuing your needs and wants involves learning how to politely and firmly decline.
  • Boundaries are a part of stopping enabling (put a link here) behavior. In recovery, you learn that you have choices as to what you find acceptable. Even though you can't control the behavior of a loved one, you can set a boundary.

At The Family Recovery Foundation we know that by learning more about the best way to set boundaries in recovery you will start to see that a life of integrity, self-respect, and self-love is far more fulfilling and rewarding.

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How to Set Healthy Boundaries: 10 Examples + PDF Worksheets | PositivePsychology.com

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